Ada Calhoun Quotes

The boring parts don't last forever. In retrospect, they aren't even boring.

To love somebody is not just a strong feeling -- it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise," writes psychologist Erich Fromm. "If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?

So what's the secret to staying together?" I asked her. "Be nice?" she offered. I laughed, but that may be it, the way a secret to losing weight is to eat less. Be nice. Don't leave. That's all.

(Personally, I have avoided many fights by going to bed angry and waking up to realize that I'd just been tired.)

People who don't marry miss both the pelting hardships of marriage and its warm rewards.

All the couples therapy and communication seminars in the world won't save you if you aren't prepared to close your eyes and hug the mainmast through a storm.