Alice MIller Quotes

Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fan­tasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of home.

The more we idealized the past, however, and refuse to acknowledge or childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation.

Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery of our truth about the unique history of our childhood.

A human being born into a cold, indifferent world will regard his situation as the only possible one.

Although the outward picture of depression is quite the opposite of that of grandiosity and has a quality that expresses the tragedy of the loss of self in a more obvious way, they have many points in common:-tThe false self that has led to the loss of the potential true self -tA fragility of self-esteem because of a lack of confidence in one’s own feelings and wishes-tPerfectionism-tDenial of rejected feelings-tA preponderance of exploitative relationships-tAn enormous fear of loss of love and therefore a great readiness to conform-tSplit-off aggression-tOversensitivity-tA readiness to feel shame and guilt-tRestlessness