Shannon L. Alder Quotes - Page 2

If you truly loved someone you won't become their enemy. You will become their guardian angel.

When dealing with critics always remember this: Critics judge things based on what is outside of their content of understanding.

God’s warriors don’t avoid conflict. They fight through it with communication and a positive outlook.

One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.

Every writer dreams about the day they can step into their fiction and wander its hallways.

I am not a human being. I am a human BEING. Just be.

Learn the difference between a person that would have never given up on you and a person you pushed away.

You are not your past. You are the warrior that rose above it to become the example of someone who didn't survive, but thrived in creating the most beautiful last chapter of their life.

People will tell you that you’re broken. Don’t believe them. They were not the person that could help you. They have not walked your path. God has got a plan to bring people into your life that have lived through a similar hell. In the end, it isn’t the number of people that are on your side. It is the people that understand what your side is that matters.

Sometimes, it is how you shine in the darkness during other people's misery that is remembered more than anything you could have said or done when you have suffered just as much.

People often tell themselves lies, in order to reach what they consider acceptance in difficult situations. In reality, they fool themselves into believing they are healed, until that lie is corrected by time, further information or their own personal growth. True healing comes when we learn to not avoid truth, but face it. Only then will we be set free.

Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?

What are words without the melody?

Anyone can have a friend, but the one that would walk in a storm to find you is all you will ever need.

Family and friends become oppressors the moment they teach you that loyalty is more important than what is done to people outside your social circle. What they are really saying is this: Save yourself because God is more interested in an intact family or social circle that looks righteous, rather than you being a person of integrity that has compassion for others. It is this absurdity that teaches the wrong version of God and creates the next generation of "me" centered individuals.

In pursuit of exposing people for who we think they are, we expose ourself.

If you are reading this then you have wasted another day of your life day dreaming, rather than planning the life God intended you to live.

Madness is loving the unsolvable puzzle of your soul and replacing the lost pieces with my own.

The most compassionate and peaceful thing you can do for yourself and others is to let go of the past, let go of the anger, let go of trying to hurt people that wronged you. There are thousands of people dying from cancer that wish they had someone to care about them and be with them during their final days. There are children being sold into sex trafficking and are hoping someone would rescue them. There are homeless people that wish they had something warm to wear or eat. There is an entire species being wiped out because not enough people care about our oceans. Today, remember that there is someone praying for the very things you take for granted. Spend your effort where God needs you to be--on the front lines of the war on earth, not on the battlefields of the past.

Only a demon would prevent a person from saving lives or fulfilling their life mission. There is no reasoning with the devil. Stand with pride because your heart is filled with the goodness of helping others, while theirs is filled with helping themselves.

Love has a way of making the sane insane and the insane normal.

The greatest lesson you might ever learn in this life is this: It is not about you.

Sometimes we can spend too much time trying to fix our life that we forget to live.

Your heart will always go where your mind wanders.

Passion is not a reaction to an external event. It is the left over emotions from the internal battles you have won that propels you forward.

You don’t have to say everything to be a light. Sometimes a fire built on a hill will bring interested people to your campfire.

If there was any great lesson in life it was this: No battle was ever won with silence.

There are so many things we expect God to do: lead us, bring good people into our life, give us a life of abundance, make us happy, fix our problems, fix other people, triumph over our enemies, etc. However, why do so many people think they will get any of this if they choose not to live righteously? If you choose to hurt other people and not take any responsibility for it or live your life as if everyone else is the problem, except you then God is going to lead you back to the same people, same places, same situations so you can fix the same problem you ran from. God is not standing in your future telling you to forget what you did. He is standing in front of you telling you to go back and undo what you did! He leads you to places that change who you are. He doesn't lead you to places to forget who you are.

Empowered Women 101: Only an insecure woman with control issues will look outside her relationship and say other people are to blame for her husband's lack of focus, love and respect. A real woman knows that the problem isn't other people; it is her man. If he truly loved you he wouldn't have ever made you an option and went looking for what he felt you didn't have. Don't waste your time trying to convince someone to see your worth by destroying others. There will always be someone prettier, smarter, more spiritual and more accomplished than you to distract this person. A real woman knows her worth and will never have to train anyone to recognize it.

When you invite people to share in your miracle, you create future allies during rough weather.

Insanity is starting over a million times, expecting to feel the spark you never did the first time.

The best kind of happiness is a habit you're passionate about.

Anyone can fail at something they really don’t want. What really takes courage is going after something you want and then failing. There is more fulfillment in life knowing that you tried, rather than settled without a fight.

A coward talks to everyone but YOU.

If you have to explain your sense of humor, then you are performing for the wrong crowd.

Shame without repentance doesn’t lose power when it is spoken, it only seeks approval.

I’ve never been bothered with my conduct. I’ve only been bothered by people that don’t get it correct when they gossip about me.

Your soulmate wasn't suppose to be perfect. You were meant to see the cracks in her soul and fill them with what you have and she was meant to see yours. Together you would be complete.

There are so many random questions in life, but the important ones harldy have a random answer.

The only difference between you and the person you admire is their perspective on life.

When you believe you have lost your power and control nothing will ever seem easy or simple.

Truth is never a straight line; it is a circle that will take you back to what you know, in order to challenge your belief in what is fair, what is real, what is forgiveable, what is not and what type of person will you become today now that you know.

Empowered Women 101: If he can't tell other women that he is happily married and acts in a way that suggests he isn't fully committed then he isn't happy. He is keeping his foot in the door for a better opportunity should it not work out with you. Real women don't need to investigate. They invest in their self confidence and worth by not allowing their man to disrespect them. They are not afraid to ask themselves the tough questions: Why am I letting this man humiliate me and value me less than others? Why have I allowed myself to become a doormat?

Books open the doors that others have closed on you.

The question isn't who will be with me in life, rather how will I create the ending I am proud of?

The only man worth having in your life is one that would never let you walk away.

When you are offered a miracle take it. Otherwise, show God your tail so he can move on and give it to someone who doesn't want to be in hell any more.

God will never call you in a direction that would cause you to sin. However, he will call you to be creative enough to find a way to make what you want come true through honorable ways.

Maybe, it wasn't stuck in my mind. Maybe,just maybe, it was stuck in my heart for so long that it grew wings and wanted to fly, but didn't know how.

People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person that will betray them the most.

Sometimes the reason God doesn't show up to win your battles is because he already put inside of you the power to end it.

Letting go of people doesn’t mean you never loved them. Sometimes, it is the greatest act of love because it teaches them to be accountable for how they treat people who care. Maybe, not now, but years from now, they will look back and realize that kindness is more than yelling casual suggestions to a person that is drowning in their sea of apathy.

Truth was never meant to make you comfortable, unless you stand in the middle of it with acceptance.

The people that understand you the most are not always the people you call family. Often, it is the person that has traveled a parallel road because they have seen the same scenery in life and can comment on the view.

You know you are on the right spiritual track when you realize that doing the right thing is not something you should do; rather, it is something you want to do. It is even something you have to do for your own peace, and the well-being of others.

The moon will guide you through the night with her brightness, but she will always dwell in the darkness, in order to be seen.

L I V E or E V I L -- to Live life is to spell forward. To not live life is to spell backwards.

He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.

The only way to find peace is to face the unknown and trust that God has heard your tears.

The day I found my smile again was when I stood in my own storm and danced with my tribe.